A True Woman of God

Posted: May 14, 2012 by andreacaresse in Godly Womanhood

In the Bible there are many role models for young women.  A few more well-known passages are Ruth, Esther, The Proverbs 31 Woman and others.  Proverbs 31 is perhaps one of the most recognized passages in the Bible that paints a clear picture of biblical womanhood.  It may come as a surprise that for much of my life the significance of this passage was never truly made clear to me.  This sheds some light on how little womanhood is discussed in the church as a whole.  The argument could be made that for the most part, today’s church is broken.  But it is because her families are broken.  Women (especially as mothers) are often the “tie that binds” in families. When mothers and wives give up or lose hope, the family as a whole falls apart. Women are meant to be the caring and tending side of families. When that’s gone, the family unit can’t stay together very long.  Proverbs 31 shows us what a devoted woman of God who loves her family really looks like.  If you haven’t read this chapter yet, do so now.

Proverbs 31 was written by a king about his mother.  She made such a strong impact on his life, he wrote about her teachings of wisdom, and her life example.  Verses 1-9 demonstrate the kind of advice this mother gave to her son; 10-31 describe the kind of woman that this mother emulated, and probably instructed her son to find as a wife.  An interesting note is that verses 10-31 were written as a Hebrew acrostic (the first letter in the first word of each verse corresponds to the letters of Hebrew alphabet in order).  This can symbolically show that a completeness of the subject is being discussed.

Below is a rough examination that may help the modern young woman understand this poetic Hebrew passage.  After reading the original passage, compare it with the following.

A Godly Woman Teaches with Words And Actions

  1. Words: She (his mother) taught him the truth and gave him instruction.
  2. She loves him and asks him to look inside himself (reflection).  She reminds him where he came from and whose he is. She asks him to take a closer look at his life.
  3. She warns him about the devastation caused by promiscuity and loose living, and reminds him of past kings destroyed by such living.
  4. She informs him that kings live by higher standards and should not drink.
  5. She taught him the consequences of choices and ramifications of drinking, and that it affects more than just himself.
  6. She instructs him to give drink as a medicine to those who perish (instead of doing bad with this, do good instead).
  7. She reminds him that others are hurting and are in poverty.  It was tradition to give drink to those who were condemned to death, she reminds him that is it’s purpose.
  8. She tells him to speak up for those with no voice; to help those who can’t help themselves.
  9. She says “Lift Your Voice!” (I couldn’t resist)  and decide by the truth; defend what is right.  Defend the rights of the defenseless.  
  10. Actions: She (a true godly woman) is hard to find and should be cherished more than any wealth imaginable.
  11. She is trustworthy and her husband never regrets opening himself up to her.
  12. She has good intentions and is not spiteful in her purposes.
  13. She seeks out her own work and does it willingly.
  14. She puts forth effort to do her absolute best at home and abroad.
  15. She is self-sacrificing and appropriately gives  everyone their needs.
  16. She makes wise choices, is a smart planner, and uses money she saves (not from debt).
  17. She is a hard worker and does not take shortcuts.
  18. She finds value in her work and doesn’t hurry to get over it.
  19. She does her “woman’s work” with both hands without slacking and does not complain.
  20. She makes an effort to help those in need, she is giving and generous.
  21. She doesn’t worry about difficult times because she has prepared well.
  22. She is clothed in purity and righteousness, never to be put to shame.
  23. She respects her husband and this is known by others.
  24. She is willing to work and make a living if necessary, and will make arrangements to do so.
  25. She is spiritually strong and does not worry about tomorrow or the unknown.
  26. She speaks with wisdom and teaches with kindness.
  27. She keeps an eye on her family and is not idle toward them.
  28. She is worthy to have her children’s and husband’s praise.
  29. She is prized by her husband as “one-in-a-million” and far above average.
  30. She fears God above all else, and doesn’t place her value in charm or beauty.
  31. She is to be cherished, love her and praise her both publically and privately, never withhold how proud you are to be hers.

So when is a woman a woman, and not just a girl?  When she is able to teach wisdom, her heart is focused on God and righteousness, and she is able to put the needs of others ahead of her own.  True women of God are wise, loving, compassionate, submissive to authority, and pure of heart.

It has nothing to do with age, and everything to do with genuine character.

  1. galatians220life says:

    I also want to draw reference to some of the many other key passages on biblical womanhood:

    1 Peter 3:1-6, “1 Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, 2 when they see your respectful and pure conduct. 3 Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— 4 but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious. 5 For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands, 6 as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. And you are her children, if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening.”

    Titus 2:3-5, “3 Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, 4 and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, 5 to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.”

    Ephesians 5:22-24, “22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.”

    These are by far only a few of the many verses that discuss womanhood. It should also be noted that along-side these verses are the corresponding instructions for how the husband is to treat his wife. It’s a beautiful image of two individuals coming together as one for the glory of God.

    You may be thinking…. but not all people are meant for marriage! This is very true. But the principles involved (submitting to authority, living pure lives, focusing on God, and the rest) carry through any life situation, age, or relationship status. When we as women live by these principles, we can find the greatest pleasure and freedom in knowing that we are living in the best way God has ordained. There’s a reason He gave us specific instructions: for our betterment, not to belittle us. In my own life I can bear witness to the fact that when I live by the example described above, my life is more joyful, and I am the most content.

    God knows better than anyone how his creations are made, and what makes them the most satisfied with life. He teaches us how to live so we can find the most joy, encouragement, and contentment in life. If you don’t believe me give it a try — you might be surprised.

  2. galatians220life says:

    Also, an interesting note is that in verse 10, the term used for “virtuous woman” is used three times in scripture:

    Ruth 3:11
    And now, my daughter, fear not; I will do to thee all that thou requirest: for all the city of my people doth know that thou art a virtuous woman.

    Proverbs 12:4
    A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones.

    Proverbs 31:10
    Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.

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